Do you want monogamous, committed relationship or do you want to be free to date whomever you desire?

treycapnerhurst, By committed, I meant a promise to be forever faithful to [no affairs whether emotional or physical], to love and cherish and stay [(physically, emotionally, help needed) a promise not to forsake nor abandon]. I guess we hold different notion notions of commitment. To cheat on, lie, abandon or give your physical body or affections to someone other than the one you promised yourself to, would not be commitment. I guess we hold different notions of commitment. Your commitment seems to be limited to just not leaving physically. Racer X, same reponse I've given to you to treycapnerhurst

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1. Monogamous... Way less drama and less chance of getting the clap. =]
2. I would prefer a monogamous, committed relationship.
3. I'd like to do both. But in the long run, monogamous is much safer and better for me.
4. Gee sometimes I want to be free to date whomever (when I'm fantasizing) but I much prefer where I'm at in a wonderful monogamous committed marriage. It's wonderful
5. I've had a 26 going on 27 year monogamous relationship. The very thought of having to go back on the dating circuit makes me break out in hives.....not that there's not a great deal of lovely people out there buthow would I know where to look?
6. You imply that this is an "OR" situation. I have both. My husband and I agreed not to own each other's bodies when we first met. We find it morally repugnant, akin to chattel slavery, and a human rights issue, for so many reasons. (Most esp. the legal sexual ownership of women, the monopoly on their children, and other domestic violence.) Currently, we have a common-law wife living with us, but I'm insisting we get rid of her because she's a lazy slug and letting us support her *ss while she... Ehem. Never mind. That's another issue entirely. I am my own person. My body is my own. My life is my own. I adore sharing it with my magnificent husband, and now our beautiful daughter. But I'm not forced to have one child. Or one friend. Or one co-worker. That would be bizarrely non-functional. Why should I only have one person who is intimate with me? Humans are not swans or wolves. It requires the intervention of law to ensure sexual exclusivity, esp. used against women in legal marriage. It is not ours by nature. My husband and I can tell each other everything. How turned on I was by that hot barrista, who I flirted with at the party, or who made his head swivel like that. I can't even imagine living in a relationship where one partner checks out some passer-by, then catches the jealous eye of their alleged best friend, and has to LIE about it. There are, and need be, no secrets btw us. Ever. He doesn't usually care to hear the details of my rare escapades (he's not a voyeur), but he's happy I'm glowing. I personally think that, because of our respect for each other and our utter lack of jealousy and ownership, that we will be together for the rest of our lives. No mid-life crisis will separate us. If he wants a fling with a young bimbo to sooth his aging manhood, he doesn't have to sneak around or divorce me to enjoy! He can come home when he's done, and our marriage is safe. That goes for my cougering, too. Heh. We each have VETOs on the other's choices, though have never used it. And we have to be safe, for everyone involved. But most ppl have more than one partner at the same time, even if they don't admit it. And in their sneaking around, they are often unsafe, dishonest, and downright dangerous. So we are far safer than most relationships. And nothing will make you appreciate your intimacies better than compare and contrast. For us, it's ten years and counting... With my husband, that is. My wife has been with us for two years. And she's getting the boot if she doesn't start contributing to the household... Rackin' frackin' mutter mumble... Here are some sites to put it in perspective. wiki/Polyamory polyamory.org/ polyfamilies.com/
7. I want a monogamous relationship. Guess I just have WPF (white picket fence) syndrome.
8. We are committed to each other and practice consensual non-monogamy.