Shy guy needs dating advice...?
so this may be a little lengthy, i'll try to cut it down a bit Essentially i'm a shy person... I don't like to engage people (guys or girls alike) in conversation unless they've engaged me... Even when they do engage me i'm always fumbling over what to say... I'm a very odd guy... I like chick flicks and being romantic and i'm undecisive about things because i'm afraid if i make a bad decision everyone is going to resent me for it... I'm constantly apologizing, all of which don't make me seem masculine... I have low self-esteem because of my upbringing... All of which brings me to my point; I don't know how to approach girls when i find them attractive and want to date them... I always feel like i need a reason to go up and start talking to them and if i don't have a reason then they'll be judging me the whole time, wondering why i'm talking to them but they'll be nice to me but hope that i'll go away soon... On top of that i don't know what to say when i get nervous and i get really nervous when i go up and talk to girls... I'm not a bad looking guy... i have some tricep definition, and i'm thin... Another problem i have is when i do get the nerve to talk and i try to act confident and funny i come off as a condescending jerk... I know i only do that as a defense mechanism to not let people in but i hate it. Anyways, how can i approach women... I've been rejected before and it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be but it was still a low blow to my morale, making me think that i'm an undesirable person to be around I should add that i think i'm cursed... Every girl who i've been in some sort of a relationship with since august has cheated on me and left me for another guy and each of those 4 couples are still together... What's wrong with me? and how can i approach women more easily Thanks for the swift kick in the ass, i really needed that... I feel like a whiny little bitch and i'm being a whiny little bitch... but i need to stop that... I need to take control of my life... thanks for the input
Public Comments
- 1) You do have a point in going up to them to talk. The point is flirting. 2) If you come off as a jerk, you come off as a jerk. Stop thinking that's the end of the world. Women sleep with jerks all the time. My guess is you don't come accross as a jerk, you're just so hypersenstive about being nice that if you are even a little bit jerk like for a moment, you panic. 3) Everyone gets rejected most of the time. Suck it up. 4) 4 girls cheated on you. Which means 4 girls dated you, so stop whining you can't get girls. Why are they cheating on you? Probably because you seem like a spineless little boy, and women like men. I'd suggest you work on yourself, your self esteem. Stop worrying about pleasing others. To hell with them. Trust your own gut more, and do what you think is right, and if other people don't like it, too bad. Sounds to me like your pick up skills are fine. You just need to grow up.
