i have ben dating my boyfriend for 4 yrs we have 2 children but i have fallen out of lovewith him, please help?
i think about a week ago i realized i did not want him to touch me or even be around me. i afraid tough that he well just give up on himself if i leave. I just really want to happy again. i forgot what it was like to actually be happy in a relationship. hell im only 20 years old i want to be free!
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- well its not about you anymore when you had children you made it all about them. i know that life can be boring an routine. but why wouldnt you try to salvage what you have, dont you owe it to your children to stay with their father. have you considered how this well affect them .
- You always have to do what you think is best for yourself. Simply sit down and talk with him about the situation. Don't ever get out of touch with him and tell him that you two will still be like best friends. Divorce/breakups are very normal in young relationships, especially if it lasts a long time. You two have to be honest with each other no matter how hard the subject is to talk about. Be true to yourself and talk to him. If he really loves you, he will want you to be happy as well, even if it's hard for him to let go.
- You have to kids with him. YOu can't leave him, but what you can do is a take a mini vacation with some girlfriends and have a good time. and when you come back you might be happier with yourself and your life. Or you just need to talk to someone and let it all out. It works me. But seriously don't leave him you've been through alot already with having two kids and all. maybe what you really want is to get married. Idk just talk about it, maybe take a vacation. Just think things through and don't be rash.
- wow... think about what made you have b4 with your boyfriend.. the way he use to look, or the way he use to treat you things like that. try taking about it, or else you guys are gonna end up breaking up. Think of your kids too.
- he may or may not give up on himself, but whatever decision he makes is HIS decision. and you have to make yours. if you're truly sure you can't make this relationship work, move on, but if there is a chance that it can work, i would try for the sake of your 2 children, so you guys can be a family./ if he's abusive in any way (physical, sexual, verbal) or controlling, leave as quickly and as safetly as you can. if he's cheater, no need to risk STDs or anythign, so pack up as quickly as possible. if you're just in a rut, which happens, see about sparking some magic before calling it quits. good luck. ps. talk to him about how you're feeling (if he' snot abusive or a cheater)
- Good luck with that. You won't truly be "free" until your kids are grown and on their own.
- Perhaps it's possible to be free of him. However, you have 2 children. So you will not be free until they are adults and are able to be independent. Whether you agree or not, THEY are your responsibility. I'm sure you'll find happiness, while raising your babies.
- You should move on, you already have two children with him. Each of your children should have a different father. * Think only of yourself - break ur children's hearts.
- Have 2 more kids. That's a really good idea.
- Don't listen to people who say stay together because of the children. It's one of the most ignorant things you could say. It's true - it's not just you anymore, but that doesn't mean you have to be unhappy. Your kids will realise that mum's not happy and growing up in a volatile environment is not a good upbringing! Staying together because of the kids means you're just going to end up arguing all the time and your children will see this - it's probably better for you all if you give it a break for a while. Your children should grow up in the happiest environment they can, not with mummy and daddy at each others necks. Do what your heart tells you too, breaking up with someone after that long is scary, but you can't live the rest of your life unhappy. Good luck xxx
- You need to tell him that so you can stop wasting yours and his time.
