Is there a definite stopping point physically when in a Christian dating relationship? Have we gone too far?

I go to church and I have been to the Christian conferences. They all say, "Don't have sex." But none of them tell you what sex actually is, like what all counts. My boyfriend and I are completely in love and are planning on getting engaged and married after we graduate college. We both love God and want to follow Him in everything we do. This includes how we act around each other. We want to be able to show each other how much we love each other. We want to be able to do this physically, but we are not sure how far we can go. We kiss and hug and cuddle up to watch a movie. Right now we do not go farther than that. We have gone farther, all the way to oral, but felt that we should not be going that far, at least as often as we had, so we have backed up. We have agreed that we are going to hold off until we pray and find out exactly what God wants for us and what is okay in God's eyes. I am asking these questions because I want to follow God and obey Him, but I am not sure what he allows or whatever. Whatever we decide to do we are going to do it sparingly because we do not want our relationship to be totally about the physical side of things. We enjoy hanging out with each other and playing games. We love talking about anything and everything and talking about our families and our own wants and desires. We are very in tune to each other, but now we want to be in tune to God in everything we do even how we show each other our love (I know we kind of did that backwards). Please help with any suggestions that might lead us in the right direction. I have also added some questions about what I have been thinking about and looking for answers. How far is too far? What constitutes sex? Is there a point of no return? Is there a point when it gets too far emotionally? At what point is it is sin? Will God be disappointed if we have accidentally passed this line already? Please help!! Thanks! If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

Public Comments

1. I've seen you post this about 5 times already, so instead of giving you the answer you want, I'll give you the real answer. Last time I said "Everyone has their own 'line'. For some it might just be kissing, for others it's 2nd base, for others it could even be teabagging. It's really up to you and what you think is right. And even if something you do is a sin, if you didn't know it was a sin then it wont matter unless you do it even after you know it's a sin. For instance, a friend of yours were to give you a car and you drove that car for years and then found out that it was stolen. Would it be a sin? No. Unless of course you kept driving the car. So for now, do whatever you feel is right and if you happen to find out that something is wrong, just stop doing it. Easy as that!" There's actually a proverb that talking about shutting your ear to the law. You arn't suppost to guess when something is wrong or make up your own rules. Anyone can come up with excuses for themselves to sin, like, "I didn't know that limewire was illegal when I was using it, so I'm keeping my music". And yours might be "I could find anything in the Bible that said not to." You shall not commit adultery. One of the 10 commandments. And a majority of the world belive that is adultery. So, you can do it and say that the Bible said nothing about it, or you could be 100% safe and no do it at all and not even risk making a sin.
2. You are going to hell and its all you fault you shouldn't even be considering any kind of sexual activity until you are married.