my dilemma with guys and dating... Help please...?

Okay so basically i have a problem with dating and telling guys no... I either don't like them that way or they are just too late. I know i seem to be really screwed up... You see i am almost eighteen and a few guys have asked me out but i just don't like them that way ( like previously stated) and now I am so scared that if i never date anyone i will never get married. It just seems like all of the guys at school seem to think that i am really ugly. i just have no confidence in really anything and it makes me really depressed. For the longest time i have been trying to find myself (like for years...) no joke. but I think that i find myself but then i get confused so i keep on changing. I think that this may be one of my problems but i have such bad self-esteem. I just tend to be too shy around guys and when i finally let them see the real me they like me but the ones i like. won't give me the time of day. so i just don't know what to do can you help me? any advice please

Public Comments

1. First understand that you are not "screwed up." No human is perfect and nobody is totally worthless. We all have problems of one kind or another. The hardest kinds of problems deal with issues that prevent us from interacting with other people. This makes us feel alone. Keep in mind that often popular people are the most shallow and loners tend to have deeper thoughts and feelings. A lack of confidence or self-esteem is often difficult to change and just as often can lead to depression. If this is a big issue with you, and you can make little or no progress on your own then get help. Start by talking with your parents or a family member (if they are close) or guidance counselor or minister (priest or rabbi). Professional social counseling may be required. Life is too short to spend time being confused.
2. You are only 17 for one!!! There is plenty of time to think about dating let alone MARRIAGE!!! Take your time sweetie and the men will come, eventually. Keep being yourself and stop thinking about all the negative things about yourself and think only of the positive. You are who you are, enjoy the things you love and stop changing just because you think it will attract someone.