Shy Guys.....When do you let a girl know you like her? (this is after you have started dating her)?

I am dating a shy guy. He calls every night (except days he's tired) but he's not said that he likes me? He says let's hang out (we haven't done much but hang out for a month now). I'm just waiting for him to take it to the next level. Whn do you guys feel that comfortable to say that?

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1. Actions speak louder than words--would you prefer it if he never called but when you saw him he told you he liked you? Also, guys tend to be a little slow when it comes to relationships---so the dude may need a little coaching---maybe be direct and ask him how he feels about you--he may be waiting for this little push from you---and be thankful that this guy isnt out to get in your pants and use you. good luck
2. I would feel comfortable when I get to know the girl a little more like sit down and talk to get to know eachother then you feel a little more comfortable to take to the next level.
3. Try building up his confidence so that when he asks you he know he wont get shut down. Shy guys, in my opinion, don't seem very confident. So any help you can give him in making the decision would help him. Try holding his hand, playing with his hair, or just straight out say that you really enjoy spending time with him and that you can't wait for next time. Hope this helps
4. Sorry but this is not going to be easy. I would sit down with him and go for the throat, go ahead and ask him what his expectations from the relationship are. Shy guys are so shot down that they don't want to cross lines because they are afraid of being shot down again. It all has to do with relationship fears of the past and/or lack of experience in relationships. Shy guys can be great but you have to help pull out the inner person they don't let out because of there past. I was a shy guy until my now wife loved me enough to be forward enough to pull out the person I shoved down inside of me. Don't be to shy about what you are expecting from your relationship.
5. Hi gal. O.k as a shy guy myself..i will tell you point blank.....Him telling you if he likes you or not,is never gonna happen if you are waiting him to do so.It also become worse if you expect him to tell you this face to face with his eyes gazing at you i.e in that special romantic moment.I tell you sis that its had 4 us shy guys to do those sort of things cuz we leave in constant fear of rejection.We often fear 4 the worst that after telling you our emotions or feelings you might do the worst as laugh at us or maybe take us as a fool.No matter how much you might be forward to us or direct or portray every tell-tale sign in the book that you are interested in us,we always have a thing that that might be our own perception and that maybe jumping at the gun might leave us embarrased 4 the rest of our lives.In short....we shy guys lack self-confidence you guys have and more so we don't like to be unliked.So gal its near to zero the chances of him telling you that he is interested in you and that he wanna take the thing to the next level. The best thing that can happen to you,that if you really and truelly are interested in this guy is to take the initiative to tell him your feelings.The best way to do this is not to confront him face to face and tell him what you think of him as this would not trigger anything near to anything but the best way is to tell him thro an email or a sms or a letter........feighn that you are really into expressing your feelings or concerns through letters or emails.Make sure you don't mention the thing about his shyness or that its bothering you in anyway as this will make matters worse.....but show him how much you care about him and how much you are interested in him and perhaps throw a positive side of him that you really like so much....maybe his sense of humor,the way he smiles or talks,the way he dresses or the way he makes you feel when you are with him or maybe his looks e.t.c this will boost his self-esteem or self-confidence and loosen his ability to trust you and trust you with his feelings.Throw him a couple of compliments much times and make him feel comfortable with you and you might be surprised at the heights he will open himself to you.Lastly don't pressure him much.......don't expect him to open the doors right away....give him time to do so.But also don't give up easily......wait for him and i tell you you will like him much when he opens.One thing about us shy guys we dont spill all the good stuffs......we reserve them.... only....only for those who want to know us in details....only for the special ones.......not the faint hearted. Goood luck