im dating a realy nice guy who tends to put his exwifes feelins before mine help!?

they have 2 kids but im tired of bein second place to how she feels or wat she wants hell shes already remarried y cant my boyfriend move on as well

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1. how is he nice if he puts his ex-wife's feelings before yours? talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. If he doesn't fix himself, then dump him.
2. Either he's not quite over her, or he's mistaking you for her- in which case they're your feelings or what he thinks your feeligns are, over what they actually are.
3. that's not cool.He shouldn't put her before you. Maby he feels obligated to.Does she have a kid?He could be feeling sorry for her. Just tell him that this is bothering you.
4. How can he be a "nice guy" if your feelings are second place? But keep in mind, when it comes to his kids, you will always be second place because his ex is the children's mother. You will have to figure that one out on your own.
5. baby girl, you need to set him straight.
6. Dump him- he will always worry abotu kids and put them first(and thus be connected to theri mom)- If you can';t handle the way it is he is not for you
7. tell him whazt hes doing point it out! thats just not right!
8. suck his dick
9. Then I guess he is really nice, but kind of not so really nice towards you. Make your feelings known, if he can't accept them, the bail, don't waste time with a guy with so much baggage.
10. tell him how u feel
11. that means he still has feeling for his ex and cuz they have kids
12. I've been in that situation. My ex boyfriend still has feelings for his ex girlfriend(not me). And yes he should move on. But it depends on what they were going through. Basically alot because they have kids. You should talk to him about it. And see what's on his mind.
13. You need to have a serious talk with him and explain to him how he is destroying this relationship with you. I'm sure he thinks he is doing the right thing but in reality, he is still letting his ex control his life. He needs to set boundaries on his relationship with her and start focusing more on his relationship with you. Get him to stick to a relationship based only on what is needed for the kids and that is all. She is some other guys problem now, not his.
14. If he can't put you first, then move on. I can understand if he put his kids before you, but his ex? You need to call him out on it and ask if he still has feelings for her. If he does, then leave him. If he doesn't, then tell him that you feel that you are coming second to his ex. If he doesn't straighten up his act soon, then leave him.
15. Be careful..There's a good possibility that he actually wants her ;still....I have experience in this subject...sad for me to say....take care of your needs,i have a feeling that he won't any time soon
16. Well he does have to move on but if he's a man he has to put his kids first over you...I know that says bad but he had to do for his kids but he also can do things with you without having his ex wife in the middle of it....but if I was you I would just sit him down and talk to him about how I felt about him and putting his ex wife before you
17. They will be connected for the rest of their lives, because of the children. What you need to decide is how bad is it? Do you need to move on, or stay there? Good luck!
18. Thats not right, he is still trying to be a better husband, but he is actually being less of a bf at the same time...he has his priorities wrong...you need to have a heart to heart talk with him, even if he doesn't see it that way, what should be important is your feelings on this issue...he needs to take care of your needs first.
19. LET ME TELL YOU SOMTHING GIRL.IF #1 HES BEEN MARRIED #2 THEY HAVE KIDS,THEN HUNNY IM SORRY TO TELL YOU,BUT YOU COULD NEVER BE FIRST THERE ALLWAYS GONNA HAVE THAT RELATIONSHIP,NO MATTER WHAT HE TELLS YOU SHE ON HIS MINE AT LEAST 10 TIMES A DAY AND I'LL TELL YOU THIS HE ALLWAYS GONNA BE HAVING SEX WITH HER TO THATS HIS BABYMOTHER AND EX-WIFE IT ANIT NO STOPPING THATI'M JUST KEEPING IT REAL WITH YOU (I KNOW)!!,YOU NEED TO GO GET YOU A MAN WITH KNOW DRAMA BEHIND HIM SERIOUSLY YOU DO!(TAKE IT FROM ME I KNOW WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT!)
20. Sounds like he hasn't completely let go of his feelings for his ex. For one thing, she is and always will be the mother of his children. Thus, they will always have that connection. Hopefully they will always be able to put their children's needs before their own. Perhaps instead of being miffed you should be proud to be dating a man who puts his kids first. This may be all that is going on, putting his kids first. Talk to him. I'll bet you'll find that's what's really happening.
21. U mayb asking 2 much of him as it is apparent that he's not yet over her.I'd suggest u "cool" things off a bit and let him take the initiative in determining how far/fast the relationship goes.U're quite likely 2 push him away from u if u "push" 2 hard & xpect 2 much 2 soon.And remember,there's no rule that dictate when a person should get over a broken relationship.However, u can decide how long u will wait 4 him 2 heal & move on 2 u.
22. All the ex's know this and that's why they'll ALWAYS Have some chrises or urgent problem. If you're in a serious relation with this person, he either has to cut his ties or you have to find a person who knows more about devotion then you current man.