Do nice guys and nice girls finish last (in the world of dating)?
Are good people always losing out in life? I'm talking particularly about dating. Are the truly good people, gentlemen and ladies usually taken advantage of? Are the bad guys and girls (or at least those with a bit of corruption in them) more popular? I'm a 'good/ nice person' as I've often been told this but I don't seem to have much luck with guys even though I'm quite pretty and have a good personality. I think I need to get a bit of 'bad stuff' in me! How do I do that?
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- i am also a nice guy and i seem to miss out in the dating world unless i get lucky once in a blue moon :/ i know how you feel
- Thats a fact. Im seriously sad to say. Iv been used by a baaaad girl. And Im sure it wont be the last.
- YES THEY DO, SO GET SOME BAD IN YOU
- I say just be yourself...you need to find somebody that likes you just the way you are.
- Nice guys finish last because many girls are attracted to "bad boys", but there aren't many guys that like for "bad girls". Maybe girls that love sex, but they aren't "bad girls" because they just enjoy sex is all.
- nice girls are like....think of an apple tree. the bad ones are on the ground rotting, eaten by birds/etc. the good apples are closer to the top and they are harder to get and you must use a lot of effort. "good girls" as you put it are like the apples on the top of the tree. it takes someone really special who appreciates the good apples and the effort to achieve the possession of the good apple. so....hang in there and patient! remember, the "bad apples" are not the ones guys want to keep, just to have a good time with! so continue to respect yourself and it will pay off
- yep we do... same here i don't seem too have much luck with girls,even though i get complimented alot on my looks aswell my personality.. id rather be me,than be something im not!
- No, of course not. It just takes the nice ones a little bit longer to find happiness, because we will not let just anybody take us for granted. We appreciate being respected, and loved, and do not want people to turn us into one time flings. The supposive "bad" ones choose their own paths, and if they choose to be with somebody who treats them badly and disrespects them, that's their problem. Everybody can decide how they do or do not want to be treated. Personally, I consider myself a "nice" one and I have finally found extreme happiness with my current boyfriend, and this was after years or more of dating guys who gave me the runaround, or just stopped calling me, and I finally said enough is enough with that..........screw them I say! Trust me, it takes time and patience on your part, but it will happen. In the end, it's better to be alone, than treated like dirt. There is a nice girl for every nice guy and vice versa!
- Don't change say the way you are. Good Christians finish and that is what you are.
- I understand what you are going through! I am way to nice - and it was hard to date. The problem is "most" guys aren't looking for a "nice" girl to date. I'm not sure how old you are, but for me as I got older guys from my past remembered I was a "nice"girl - (wife material) and my phone wouldn't stop ringing. Trust me when it's time to settle down & start a family you are the kind of person men are looking for! Don't feel like you are missing out on the dating scene. Truthfully your just missing out on a lot of heartache, and mind games. Enjoy your youth & friends and don't change for anyone!! Being "Nice" is who you are, and you will win in the long run! Good Luck!
- Nice guys do not finish last. There is a difference between being nice and being a doormat. Women like nice guys. Women love guys who aren't doormats. Think about it. For more help, read High Probability Selling. It'll help you stop being a doormat...personally and professionally. Trust me. www.highprobsell.com
- Same here only it sounds like u have had a boyfriend but I never had one I consider myself nice and pretty so I understand
